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5 Most Powerful Words in Life Coaching

"What is holding you back?"

These five little words really force us to really look at why we haven't gone after what we really want.

Do you ever find yourself dreaming big, only to be quickly followed by that negative little voice in your head? The one that whispers, "But what if you fail?" or "You're not good enough."

That's the voice of fear. And it has a knack for cozying up in our hihgly sensitive minds and convincing us to play small.

But fear not (pun intended), because we're about to unpack why we let fear hold us back from pursuing our dreams, and how we can kick it to the curb.

Why do we let fear call the shots?

Fear loves to keep up hanging out in our comfort zones. It's like that annoying friend who never wants to try anything new.

We get comfortable with the status quo, even if it's not where we really want to be.

Stepping outside of our comfort zone means facing the unknown, and that can be really scary. But here's the thing: growth doesn't happen in our comfort zones.

Growth happens when we summon up the courage to take that leap of faith and actually go after our dreams. Even if it means that we stumble (and possibly embarass ourself) along the way.

So why do we let fear hold us back?


We scroll through social media, comparing ourselves to other women who seem to have it all figured out.

Spoiler alert: they don't. Behind every perfectly curated Instagram feed lies a story of struggle, setbacks, and self-doubt.

instagram vs reality meme

So instead of getting caught up in the comparison game, embrace the messy, imperfect, beautifully flawed path that is uniquely ours.

I love the saying that goes something like "Don't compare your Chapter 1 with their Chapter 20." (I probably just slaughtered the quote but you get the point,)

Fear of Failure

Ah, yes, the F-word. We've all been there, paralyzed by the fear of falling flat on our face. But failure isn't the end of the road; it's just a detour.

Some of the greatest success stories start with failure.

  • Did you know Arianna Hiffington first lost a cammpaign for governor of California before starting the Huffington Post?

  • Vera Wang initially wanted to be an Olympic skater.

  • Joan Rivers has been banned from networks and even went bankrupt but she keeps on going,

  • Sarah Jessica Parker was the creative director for Halston when it went under.

Okay, I digress. But my point is none of them let failure stop them, instead they pivoted.

So instead of fearing failure, accept that it is part of the journey (and that it sometimes gives you really good stories to tell at parties.)

Another way to reframe failure is view it as feedback. Look at everything as information and learn from it.


This shows up as that nagging voice in our heads that says, "Who are you to chase after your dreams?"

Well, who are you not to? You're a capable, resilient, and strong highly sensitive woman. Don't let self-doubt be what holds you back.

When you notice that inner critic, silence it by replacing those doubts with affirmations of your worthiness. Here are a few to get you started:

  • I am deserving

  • I trust myself

  • I am loved

  • I am worthy

  • I am resilient

  • I am capable

  • I am brave

  • I am getting (stronger, better, smarter) everyday


How do you start to break free from the fear and pursue your dreams? It starts with a little thing called courage.

Courage to step outside of our comfort zones.

Courage to embrace imperfection.

Courage to fail spectacularly and get back up again.

Courage to believe in ourselves, even when the world tries to tell us otherwise.

Courage and maybe some life coaching???

So I'll ask you the question again, "What is holding you back?"


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